tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7723358069240047267.post3515834802086294198..comments2023-04-29T08:13:13.889-04:00Comments on The Making of the Muse: Appropriately FunerealLizhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08786622108088754781noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7723358069240047267.post-39305289253245169682013-01-22T20:50:59.543-05:002013-01-22T20:50:59.543-05:00I quite agree, even if you look at mourning as big...I quite agree, even if you look at mourning as big business, which it was especially in Victorian times, there were highly defined degrees of grief. As a widow it would be at least a year and a half before you could wear any color but black, go to social functions, or even wear jewelry made from anything but the hair of the deceased (delightful I know). I will say that there are certain ethnic groups who still take the business of mourning very seriously, I worked with a really traditional Portuguese woman named Rosemary and she wore nothing but black for a year after her mother-in-law died, I think the real trick is finding a healthy balance between respect and practicality. Thanks for stopping by!<br />Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08786622108088754781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7723358069240047267.post-38482088235354197552013-01-22T18:53:32.267-05:002013-01-22T18:53:32.267-05:00In the 1940s people used to wear arm bands when th...In the 1940s people used to wear arm bands when they were mourning a death. (But then again men and women also wore stylish hats). In the 1980s Michael Jackson (love him to death) took that arm band and incorporated it into his own style. Who knows, maybe he was mourning his lost childhood. But I think that's an example of style breaking down, of course I don't think the arm band was initially meant for style. <br /><br />When I was young people dressed up for church. I had to wear tights! Nowadays I think churches are so happy to see folks they let them come as they are. <br /><br />A friend of mine died in high school and the boy I was dating showed up wearing a Metallica t-shirt. I wouldn't go in with him because it was so appalling! <br /><br />My stepfather calls black jeans his Sunday best! I personally think it's always best to be tasteful when paying respects. Even my stepfather has a pair of dress slacks for occasions like these. You still have to dress up for a job interview, but often times not for the job. These are confusing times in terms of fashion.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07432842225028747680noreply@blogger.com